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No Online Writing Regrets

SuccessYes, it’s been a while since I’ve written a post on writing. It may be a while before I write another one, but I wanted to share this thought.

A long time ago when I started writing online I heard folks say it wasn’t worth it. The thought of spending untold hours writing online for mere pennies was a waste of time. I’m glad I didn’t listen to them.

While the nay sayers were spewing forth their nays, I decided to stay below the fray and write. I experimented with various online writing sites and played around with my own sites. I dabbled in various subject areas to see which were most satisfying and which were most lucrative.

As I was dabbling, experimenting and writing, the nay sayers were arguing. They were adamant about making a point of how one thing or the other was a waste of time. Honestly, I found the age-old argument to be a waste of time.

Where Am I Now and What Have I Learned?

My interest in online writing has waned, but I’m glad I spent those years writing. My income is a fraction of what it was but an extra $1,000 a month in residual income isn’t bad when you consider I’m no longer actively writing.

The best lesson I learned over those years is to get active. Some of us have a tendency to learn, learn, learn and learn some more but never implement any of what we learned for fear of not doing it right. I think one of the worst things our education system and our society has done is to tell kids they have “failed.”

Perfect Belly FlopNot wanting to be slapped with the failure label, we tend not to do anything unless we can do it perfectly. I don’t know about you, but there is precious little that I’ve done perfectly the first time around. Well, I take that back, I did do a perfect belly flop in an attempt to learn how to dive into a pool. I’ve since improved on my diving technique.

Failure is My Friend

Because of my online writing journey I’m no longer afraid of failure. Failure means that I’ve taken an action and learned another way not to accomplish my goal. Doing so narrows the path to success just a little. Failure is a catalyst. It’s the spark that ignites a change in direction or thought process. It is not a destination.

Now that I’ve moved onto another journey, I take with me the lessons I learned as a freelance writer. I’m thankful for my online writing experiences and I’m especially thankful for what it taught me about myself. I can do anything that I set my mind to do, regardless of what the nay sayers say. And the best part of that last sentence is that it applies to you too.

Don’t focus on the obstacles; focus on your dream. The obstacles are just little character building bumps. They provide just what you need. If you don’t know enough, the bumps will teach you and make you better. If you think you know it all, the bumps will humble you and make you better. Bottom line, bumps in the road are there to help you become a better you.

I’ll end this post with a few of my favorite quotes on failure. Hope it encourages you to embrace your mistakes and learn from them.


“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”
– Truman Capote –

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
– Winston Churchill –

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”
– Salvador Dalí –

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.”
– Henry Ford –

Success or Failure

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  • cashflowmantra November 2, 2012, 3:01 pm

    I especially love the quote from Henry Ford. Glad to see that you wrote this. I do miss reading your work, but we all move on to other stages in life so no big deal. Also, $1000 per month for doing nothing is not bad money.

    • Felicia November 3, 2012, 7:22 am

      Yep, that $1,000 a month (plus all the lessons learned) makes it all worth it.

      • Terr November 3, 2012, 9:01 am

        Yep, I’d reckon that an extra $1k a month is nothing to sneeze at…especially when it’s earned on a residual basis.

        I’m hoping you don’t take down this site. What is it that you’re working on now? Did I miss a post on this new project?

        • Felicia November 6, 2012, 6:28 am

          Terr, this site is here to stay. I don’t intend to take it down. I’ve learned over the years that my interests are like the tide, they come and go. I’d hate to renew my interest in writing only to have to re-create NJFM.

          As far as a post on my new projects, there isn’t one. I’ve decided to follow my interest in upcycling furniture. I now have a legitimate reason to purchase and use the power tools I’ve been drooling over all these years. 🙂 My former neighbor and I were going to create a business called “Girls with Tools,” but she has since moved so I’ve got to carry the weight alone. LOL.

  • Cassie November 3, 2012, 3:24 am

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Felicia. Your blog (NJFM) was one of the first I started following when I was learning, learning, learning. Before I became “brave” enough to take the dive.

    I want to thank you for being a part of my learning journey, and to thank you today for reminding me not to focus on the obstacles but to focus instead on my dream.

    Over the years, I’ve picked up a number of helpful tidbits from you (I even created a NJFM subfolder in my Outlook so that I could save and refer to your wisdom!). So again, thank you.

    God bless!

    • Felicia November 3, 2012, 7:20 am

      It does my heart good to know I played a small role in getting you to take the dive. I think I’ve learned as much from my readers as they have learned from me.

  • Loretta November 3, 2012, 7:05 am

    Felicia, thanks for such an inspirational message. Still missing your regular NJFM posts, but always wishing you the best.

    • Felicia November 3, 2012, 7:25 am

      Loretta, I’m still writing (although not as frequently) about my new journey. Just like in the beginning of NJFM, I’m sharing my successes and blunders.

      You may not be interested in painting/playing around with furniture, but the lessons I’m learning there are the same as I learned here. I’m noticing that one of my most used words is “Oops.”

  • Crystal November 5, 2012, 3:25 pm

    I appreciate all you’ve shared with us here on NJFM and can’t thank you enough for getting me pointed in the right direction way back in 2009. Finding you on Suite 101 sure opened up a lot of possibilities for me!

    Speaking of which, do you have an opinion on the “new” Suite 101? I just got an email announcement today and it looks like they’re trying to go all social network on us.

    • Felicia November 6, 2012, 6:30 am

      Crystal, at first glance, I’m not too thrilled with the new Suite. I’m not a fan of social media so anything moving in that direction does not give me the warm and fuzzies.

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