The recent changes in the Google algorithm has made me realize how much I’ve matured over the years as an individual and a writer. My decision making process and response to unexpected situations has evolved.
When I was much younger (and a newbie writer), and the unexpected happened, I would react in a knee-jerk fashion. Normally my reaction was quick and somewhat dramatic.
My knee-jerk reactions were based on emotion. Something happened, I didn’t like it, and I wanted to right the wrong as quickly as possible. On occasion, it wasn’t even so much as righting the wrong but making a bold statement. Usually the statement was one of “I’ll show them! Or, I’ll teach them!”
As I got older, I realized that many of my knee-jerk reactions were incorrect. Not only did I have to deal with the original situation that caused my knee-jerk reaction but then I had to undo everything that I did while I was in the midst of my dramatic knee-jerk reaction. After having to clean up too many messes, I started engaging my brain before letting my emotions take over.
The only problem with thinking is that I tend to think for a long time. I used to think, analyze, discuss, and get outside opinion after opinion. I’d then mull it over and over in my head, seek more input and advice and then re-think everything all over again. The end result was I based decisions on outside sources and opinions.
Such decisions based on opinion and outside sources made other people happy, but didn’t always make me happy. I was a part of the “in” crowd because I did what other people did but not necessarily what was right to me.
This is what I love about getting older (or as my kids would say, being old). I’m finding in my latter years, that although I like to make other people happy, the bottom line is I’ve got to be happy. Unhappy people don’t make other people happy. They make other people miserable. Therefore, when the unexpected happens I now remove myself from the fray. I seek a quiet place where I can tap into my inner consciousness. I block out everyone and everything else.
After spending quiet time, the answer usually comes to me. Many times the answer is wait and see while other times there are immediate actions to be taken. Whatever the answer, it is not influenced by outside opinions or advice.
In situations like the Google algorithm change where my gut tells me to wait and see, I eventually allow my brain to engage. My brain helps me to find alternate paths to take while situation # 1 is in the wait and see phase.
My knees, well, with all of the knee jerk reactions that I’ve made over the years; I have a nice loud crunching case of chondromalacia. Fortunately, it’s not painful, but my days of quietly sneaking up on the kids are over . 🙂
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