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An Intervention Post

Please bear with me, but I feel it necessary to write this post.

I started this blog with one goal in mind; to share my experiences in my transition from working a traditional job to being a work at home mom. I remembered what it was like having to leave my kids when they were so very young in daycare while I went to work. I vowed that if I were ever was fortunate enough to find an alternative, I would share what I learned with others.

With the evolution of the internet and the ability to set up a blog, I now get to virtually fulfill my goal. No Job for Mom is all about sharing, motivating and helping like minded individuals to achieve their work from home goals.

The Good and the Bad…

Along the way I knew there would be setbacks, frustrations and naysayers. I learned to take everything in stride. The serenity prayer is at my right hand. When I find that I’m getting a bit frustrated with things I pull it out and wonder if the situation is something I can change or not. If I can, then I do the best I can to change it. If I can’t, then I look for a workaround or alternative.

Freelance WriterRecent comments on the Open Post for Demand Studio Editors made me think twice about which comments to approve and which ones to reject (I’ve since removed a comment or two). I know for a fact that I have a group of articulate writers that read this blog. I also have a great bunch of readers who have contributed valuable information. After all, it takes a village to raise a blog, and I thank all of my fellow villagers. Your comments and support are inspiring.

I am asking, however, that going forward we refrain from validating ourselves at the expense of others. Until we walk a mile in the other person’s shoes, we should think twice about judging him. This blog is read by writers of varying writing levels. As far as I’m concerned even after two and a half years of online writing, I still feel like a beginner. There’s something new to learn every day.

Required Education to Become a Writer

Honestly, no matter how many degrees one has or does not have has little bearing on how well one writes. I’ve read articles written by individuals with PhD’s and have wondered how on earth they got as far in life as they did. I’ve also read articles from high school students that would put some ‘professional’ writers to shame.

After attending college, my true education began when I entered the School of Hard Knocks. Everything I’ve learned in the real world has helped Graduateme to become a better writer. The School of Hard Knocks taught me that writers should be invisible. The reader should be so engaged with the subject matter that they shouldn’t have to think about how it’s written.

A good writer should be able to take extremely complicated subjects and write about them in an easy to read, easy to understand fashion. That only happens when the writer takes herself out of the equation. In my eyes, the purpose of writing isn’t to impress everyone with linguistic gymnastics, but rather to provide an enjoyable reading experience from which the reader walks away a little more knowledgeable and with just a little hunger for more of what I’ve written about.

Now that I’ve shared my philosophy on writing, I encourage debate and differences of opinion here at NJFM. I just ask that we refrain from making a point at the expense of others. After all, we’re all writers here; I know we can come up with more creative ways to express opinions.


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  • Mandy Harris July 31, 2009, 2:48 pm

    Great post, Felicia. I am always looking for the support of fellow writers and hope I can do the same for others. You’ve done a great job creating that kind of community.

  • Eve July 31, 2009, 2:55 pm

    It’s come to my attention recently that there is a lot of “I’m better than you are” comments on some of my favorite writing blogs. I participate a tiny bit on the Demand Studios forum, and it’s just gotten nuts over there. And on one of the blogs I read, there are regular comments from people who bash other writers based on the whole online content vs. print, and residual vs. upfront payment controversy. It makes me sad. I wish that all writers would just support each other, even though I know that’s silly idealism. So, I applaud your efforts to keep your blog on the positive side. You seem like a really positive, optimistic person. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge you learn on your journey. Much appreciated by so many of us.

  • Sherri July 31, 2009, 7:39 pm

    Hi, I’ve been following your blog ever since I found it with the Today.com Exiles.

    I think that writing is a form of art. Just like any form of art, there are all types. Of course, there is a time and place for technical, collegiate level writing, and there is also a time and place for quirky, from-the-heart writing.

    Since I started this new online writing thing, I struggle with perfectionism and fear of being judged by my writing. I have to remind myself that my blog is about my personal journey. Someone who relates to what I write about won’t care if it is grammatically perfect or a novel in the making. They are reading to get a glimpse into my life and hopefully learn something.

    I really enjoy your blog. It’s refreshing to read about someone who is successful doing what they love. I’m a long way from leaving my day job, but I hope to start earning enough on the side that I can afford to work a much less stressful job that is closer to home. Thanks for providing inspiration!

  • busybeeson August 1, 2009, 10:57 am

    Great post! Sometimes the most critical people end up learning the least because they are not open. Criticizing others never makes you better. In fact, I find that being open and supportive draws more people to your writing and makes them more open to hearing what you have to say. Thanks for being a positive voice online. I always enjoy your perspective. Kudos!

  • Wendy August 5, 2009, 3:53 pm

    As usual, Felicia, you are right on the money with this post. Thank you again. The competition between writers thing only divides us, which makes it easier to wring more work for less pay out of us, IMHO. I think it is fairly obvious that we are all just working slugs to a greater or lesser extent : ), right?

    Take Care and thanks again for staying positive. It’s the only way for long-term success in any field.

    .-= Wendy´s last blog ..Another day, another… =-.

  • Tashana August 5, 2009, 11:39 pm

    Hi Felicia, I am looking forward to following your blog. I would love to be a work at home mom and still be able to care for my family. I had to laugh when you mentioned degrees and the ability to write – I so agree. I communicate so frequently with presidents, vice presidents, educators and people who are at a level where you assume their writing abilities are paramount and they send the most abysmal emails with all kinds of typos, grammatical faux paus, the whole sh-bang-a-bang – it’s terrible. I truly believe though that is from a lack of caring. I’ve found in my line of work that people at certain levels are always moving so fast that they tend to only care about the things that are driving them at that moment – and oft times, writing is not one of those things.

    Then you have a ‘real’ writer on the other hand, who always critiques everything she does whenever she does it, that would be me. I am so meticulous about what I put into a message that I tend to over think it sometimes and end up chucking what I over thought and instead sending some brief memo with absolutely no character. That is just not me. I guess I love my craft so much so that I canoodle over it like a new born child. Is canoodle a word? lol – I heard that on Sex and the City – my fav show by the way.

    Anyhooch, again, I look forward to following your blogs and I hope someday my dream of writing full time will come true as well.


    • Felicia August 6, 2009, 7:09 am

      Welcome to NJFM, Tashana.

      Becoming a full-time work from home writer all starts with a dream.

      You have the dream, now all you have to do is put some action behind it. Do a little everyday and you’ll be amazed at how things start coming together.

  • Tashana August 26, 2009, 11:48 am

    Thank you for those words of encouragement. As I sit in my office, staring at posters and post-its that celebrate an environment that I no longer care to be a part of, I long even more for a career that I can call my own.

    When I advised my interns to begin exploring paid online writing opportunities their eyes brightened up like they had just won the lottery. It always amazes me when I mention ‘writing for money’, people seem perplexed at such a concept as if I were speaking a foreign language – that is, until I supply them with resources like your website and the host of other sites out there.

    Thank you again for being a great resource. I am finding your site to be not only credible but one of the most informative sites I have come across thus far.

    Congrats on all of your success.
    .-= Tashana´s last blog ..Every good story is stuffed with victims…. =-.

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